I cringe when I hear other moms say their kids come first.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
This verse tells me two very important things:
- You and your spouse are one flesh. ONE.
- Your children are going to eventually leave you and become one flesh with their spouse. Gone. Leaving who? Just you and your spouse, again.
In the beginning it was Deon and I. In the end it will be Deon and I. That means I want to love, honor, respect, and put him before our children. [gasp!]
Daddy gets the best. When Deon is home the kids know not to sit in his chair at the kitchen table. They know not to sit in his spot on the couch. Daddy gets the big T.V. in the living room. Daddy gets to decide what we have for dinner. And when daddy is home, no littles get to sleep in mommy’s room. They know these things. Our 5 year old will tell you that when daddy is home, daddy is the boss.
We don’t have a big sign of Daddy’s Rules, nor does Deon come home and start barking orders while we feed him Reese’s cups and massage his feet [although he would probably add that to the rules if there was a list]. They know this because I [the wife before mother] set these standards.
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
I am my husband’s biggest supporter and daddy gets the best. When the kids complain about Deon’s long work hours, I’m quick to remind them [lovingly] that daddy’s long work hours are the reason they have every single thing they have [because sometimes I have to lovingly remind myself of that very same thing].
Daddy gets the best. Put your husband first. Model respect. And pray that one day your son will have a wife that puts him first. A wife that gives him the best.
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” Genesis 2:18