Hi. My name is Tiffany and I am the mother of a strong-willed child. The strong-willed child is defined on Google as one who is stubborn and always has to get their way [and beside that definition is our child’s name]. I’ve also read that although challenging when they are young, they become terrific teens and young adults. Self-motivated and inner-directed, they go after what they want and are almost impervious to peer pressure.
Fantastic news!! Only eight more years to go until we reach his teens…..eight more years of battles that normally end with both of us in tears. Eight more years of planning outings in advance to prevent public meltdowns. Eight more years of holding him in my lap when the planning fails and a tantrum takes place. Eight more years of praying at the bottom of the staircase when I’ve put him in time-out and he’s screaming. Eight more years of mom guilt because I can’t prevent his emotional breakdowns. Constant GUILT when you’ve tried everything in the books, read hundreds of websites, and asked the advice of EVERYONE you know and you still feel defeated at the end of the day. Tell me I’m not the only one…..moms???
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE our baby. He’s our last one [spoiled?!] and he has a BIG personality. He’s full of funny phrases, wacky faces, and booty shaking. When it’s good, it’s good. But when it’s bad….it’s bad.
I have a strong-willed child, but he has a strong-willed mama. I am a strong-willed woman [and then there was a blog] and I won’t let those moments define our home or our relationship. “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Proverbs 22:6. So we train. We cry and we get angry. We apologize and we laugh. We talk. And when we can’t find the words we just sit together quietly, because I want my kids to know that I am there. Sitting. Waiting for them to come to me when they are ready.
Isn’t that the most beautiful thing about our Father? We are HIS strong-willed children. We get angry, we cry, we sometimes fight to understand the chaos of this world…and when we are ready, there He is…waiting, quietly for us to come to Him. Always there. That’s the beautiful example I want to display for my children.
A strong-willed woman, because I have a strong-willed God.